To those of you who are readers of this blog, you will be aware of the situation that I found myself in with regards to my ex and ex-friend who are now an item. It has been an horrific few years. However, the intensity of those early days has died down and what remains is a feeling of being left on a desolate battlefield. I am the walking wounded but my scars are beginning to heal, all be it slowly. I cannot under estimate the feelings of rage that accompanies the knowledge of finding out that you have been betrayed through an affair. So many times, I have tried to put myself in the shoes of the OW and as to why she would choose to go down this path. I have to say with the mellowing of time, I feel it is a fool who chooses to go down that road and note the word 'chooses'. I believe if we step out of the euphoric mist that I imagine one must feel at the start of an affair, and really look at the possible consequences of such an action it might be a wake up call to stop such behaviour in its tracks. However, as humans we are really lead by our wants and desires. To really do the right and moral thing just seems like too much hard work.
...Why does the pain of an affair hurt so much? That question can only be truly answered by those who have experienced it, and as someone who has, I hope this blog can offer some insight to the agony that you are facing.