One of the fallouts of an affair is that if a family gets broken up there is inevitably an impact on your finances. My ex has decided he will not pay for the upkeep of our child. His argument is that if he has her half the time he does not need to pay as he is already paying out by feeding her etc! Why is this person a parent if he is keeping tally on what it costs to feed his child? He is making out that feeding his child is an expense! of course children are in a literal sense but you don't consciously think about it or even comment about it for that matter. You just do it! You put them first because that is what you are supposed to do. Otherwise, why be a parent?
Also as a result of him not paying anything to me I have had to up the ante by working more to make sure that we have roof over our heads and that I can feed the both of us. I am more than prepared to do that however, it does mean me seeing less of my child. That is painful and I am now trying to find alternative ways to make money. If I can do it from home full time and bring in a good wage, then all the better. I am giving myself about a year to 18months to make this transition. As much as I love my job I can see that my being there is slowly coming to an end because of my new found circumstances. This is another reason why it literally doesn't pay to have an affair and that infidelity truly sucks!!!
...Why does the pain of an affair hurt so much? That question can only be truly answered by those who have experienced it, and as someone who has, I hope this blog can offer some insight to the agony that you are facing.