I am still feeling angry although not as intensely as I did at the weekend. I have been going on to the healing heart forum which has helped me immensely and continues to do so. Whilst on there this afternoon I stumbled upon a really good link. http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/theothermanotherwoman/p/othermanwoman.htm .
I gave it a read and I have to say that it gave a logical perspective on the OW / OM. I recommend reading it because in the heat of the anger and pain which is never far away from the surface in an affair situation, it offers a clear and calm view to something that is quite toxic. It's literally offering a survival tactic to a trauma (which an affair is to those who are on the receiving end) in a logical manner.
Surviving infidelity is one long road!
...Why does the pain of an affair hurt so much? That question can only be truly answered by those who have experienced it, and as someone who has, I hope this blog can offer some insight to the agony that you are facing.