Hi, I have written some more today. The best way to deal with the constant pain and grief is to write. I have uploaded some books to iTunes, Kobo, Sony Reader and Amazon Kindle books. They are called: The Vision, The Pious Whore, The Pariah and The Seeds of an Affair Would be really interested to get some feedback on them. Also would be really interested to hear from anyone who has suffered from an affair and what their road to recovery has been like.
Hello all. It's been a bit of a long week not to mention an even longer weekend! I have had to work for most of it! My ex (remember the one who was seeing my friend) wanted to have our daughter for the weekend and that my ex-friend should pick her up from mine. Well, my response was a resounding no! Why should I hand my child over to someone who was once my friend and who walked out on her own children? The whole scenario looked at from a distance would be perceived as morally wrong.
Therefore, try to imagine if it is you who is in this situation, you are just not going to hand your child over. As a result of me saying no to his demand, he came and picked up our daughter himself. If I could bottle up the anger and rage that he exuded as he drove up to our house to pick her up, it could have powered a nuclear power station for a month! I had to laugh as I saw that because it made me think that this behaviour is coming from the man who says he is 'happy'! The thought of her and his behaviour made me ask myself the question: How do I deal with the ex-friend who is still in the background?
That is a hard one to answer at the moment but for now I am going to do my utmost to ignore her. If I truly think about it logically I am wasting precious time giving her any thought. She is absolutely not worth it! I hope I can keep it up. Stay tuned!
...Why does the pain of an affair hurt so much? That question can only be truly answered by those who have experienced it, and as someone who has, I hope this blog can offer some insight to the agony that you are facing.