I read somewhere today that by hiring a nanny or a child care provider to look after your children you are inadvertently inviting the potential for an affair into you are home. Apparently, according to this piece, you are making it even more possible if the said nanny or child care provider is good looking or very attractive. Effectively, if an affair does happen the blame will initially lie with the betrayed, making it their fault! I don't agree with that at all!
If I had read that perspective 18months ago or even a year ago my response would have been based on raw emotion i.e I would have been angry. Having read that today, I am still angry but I do have some sense of clarity now and my response today is thus: YOU CANNOT BE ACCOUNTABLE FOR OTHER PEOPLES' POOR LIFE CHOICES!!! Therefore, I am not responsible for starting an affair. The affair participants are. Therefore, that perspective misses that important point completely.
For those who have been on the receiving end of an affair, don't shoulder the blame for it.
...Why does the pain of an affair hurt so much? That question can only be truly answered by those who have experienced it, and as someone who has, I hope this blog can offer some insight to the agony that you are facing.