'Have you heard? (my ex's name here!) has been having an affair with (my ex-friend's name here). Who would have thought it and with her being a Christian an all...unbelievable!' that was one of the comments I heard when I first found out about the affair. My shock, which has been well documented on this blog, was, well what can I say? In short, it was horrific.
With regards to myself I have to say I didn't hear much about me at all (although I am sure a lot was said as I reacted angrily when I found out). I know a few of their friends – like children in a playground – had a field day embellishing half truths with their own spin on events. Again, at the time I was in shock. Not only had I been betrayed now, their friends' were sticking the knife in. I hit rock bottom with it all and I couldn't believe how cruel people can be but now I know they can. I don't know about the rest of the world but here in the UK, people love nothing more than watching other people's lives turned upside down. That might explain why soap operas are so, so popular!!
Anyway, having felt so let down by so many people, I scoured the internet for help and advice. Getting information from the following website www.emotionalaffair.org was one of the sources that helped me a great deal.
On the flipside, there were those who have been so unbelivably supportive in their time, love and wisdom that they have given me. I am truly grateful to them and it has made me realise there are also some lovely, decent people in this world and they are never given the press they deserve. They are the unsung heroes.
Yes, 2013 was the year that my world came crashing down. Their affair almost destroyed me but it didn't.
2013 was also the year that the old, trusting and naive soul that I was, died.
...Why does the pain of an affair hurt so much? That question can only be truly answered by those who have experienced it, and as someone who has, I hope this blog can offer some insight to the agony that you are facing.