Well, I have watched all five episodes of the first series of the BBC's Dr Foster drama. It was brilliant to say the least, but there are a couple of things that slightly niggled me about it.
Firstly, as a woman who is betrayed by her husband / partner it requires a monumental amount of effort to act restrained, calm and calculated. This aspect of the drama I found very difficult to relate to. The reason being is the waves of emotion that are felt from D-Day are so traumatic and drastic, well they were for me anyway, and it was those emotions that clouded every aspect of my life for a good couple of years. Again, I feel that this should have had more prominence in the drama.
Also as any betrayed wife / girlfriend knows, contact with the other woman is off limits. To have contact with her only exacerbates the pain. She, as well as your spouse, are the source of your suffering, so as a form of self preservation you have to keep your distance. However, in the interests of the storyline this was kept in.
Some of the reviews with regards to the series have mentioned that the main protagonists in this story were not likeable characters. Obviously, the cheating husband and the other woman were pretty horrible characters: He came across weak and spineless and she had the attitude of a spoilt and petulant child. With regards to the betrayed wife, I have to disagree. I liked her. Suranne Jones, who played the betrayed wife, was brilliant. If being confident and good at what you do makes you unlikeable, well, what can I say other than that's ridiculous. Also the pressure and stress her character was under knowing what she knew, in my opinion, made her a saint in the way that she behaved! As anyone will tell you who has been betrayed, the rage that you feel from a betrayal is like a tsunami that can so easily cloud your everyday thoughts and actions.
Dr Foster made for very painful viewing but definitely worth the watch. Click Here!
...Why does the pain of an affair hurt so much? That question can only be truly answered by those who have experienced it, and as someone who has, I hope this blog can offer some insight to the agony that you are facing.