I found out through a friend of a friend that someone I used to know had their wife cheat on them with a family friend. As far as I am aware all parties involved seem to be quiet about it. Obviously, that is just a public front but behind closed doors, I imagine those two households must be full of grief and despair. What is it with regards to sleeping with your friend's partner or wife? Are we that lazy that when we want out of a relationship we go to those closest to us? Surely, to go down that road you know you are going to get caught. To keep up the pretence and the lying must require a lot of devious behaviour as well as a monumental amount of energy to keep up the charade that everything is normal. They say that those who are in the throes of an affair are like drug addicts: getting their kicks when they are with the affair partner. The pleasure centre in their brain is getting stimulated (if you pardon the pun!) every time they meet up with them. At first, I couldn't understand that way of thinking. However, now that I am three years plus from being on the receiving end of an affair, and my mind and thinking is somewhat clearer, I now get that way of thinking even though it is absolutely wrong to follow it through. Fortunately, for me, I do not have an addictive personality so I do think that those who get caught up in an affair really have no idea of the consequences of their actions. The ripple effect of what they do, I believe, can go on for years to come!
...Why does the pain of an affair hurt so much? That question can only be truly answered by those who have experienced it, and as someone who has, I hope this blog can offer some insight to the agony that you are facing.