It took me a while before I discovered the 180 and even longer to implement some of the strategies that were suggested. However, having followed some of them through and have remained consistent with them I have found this change in attitude has helped. So much so I have managed to gain some power and control in my life. For any of those out there who are in the aftermath of an affair betrayal I suggest the following website: www.affaircare.com. It is brilliant and it has helped and continues to help on the path of healing.