Well this oddly enough is quite a liberating post! My DDay came almost 3 1/2 years ago. As those of you already know, my now ex betrayed me with a former close 'friend'. They both justified it by saying that they had found 'love' and that they were in deeply unhappy relationships. The affair, according to them, was really a blip in the two of them getting together. Needless to say what they did and their attitude towards the whole toxic saga devastated me. For at least two years after the event I walked around with the shame and humiliation of what they did! Anyway, to cut a long story short they both moved in with each other just around the corner from me! Great! Knowing that made me feel sick to the stomach. Those awful triggers that we all know so well was on my doorstep now 24/7! It took all the will in the world to not let it affect me. The other day I had to pick up my child from there and usually I park at the bottom of the road as I didn't want to see the house they lived in. However, this day something snapped in me. I thought no more! I am not going to walk around like the wounded party anymore. I was done! So I marched up to the house, knocked on the door and lo and behold the OW opens it. She looked a bit shocked and said hello. I ignored her faux salutations! Instead, I marched straight in and got my child and everything she had with her. OW went to say goodbye. I ignored her she then cried out to my child saying something was left behind. She had it in her hand and I snatched it right from her. I turned my back on her, straightened my shoulders and held my head so high and walked back down that road with such a defiance in every step that if it could have been measured on the richter scale it would have been an earthquake! Amongst all of that I had a smile on my face! For the first time since all of this happened I followed my advice and that is: Don't Give Her Your Power!! God, it felt good. Any of you who are in this position I urge to have a look at my ebook and audio book entitled Don't Give Her Your Power! Sisters, we can't let them win!!
...Why does the pain of an affair hurt so much? That question can only be truly answered by those who have experienced it, and as someone who has, I hope this blog can offer some insight to the agony that you are facing.