I am still feeling angry although not as intensely as I did at the weekend. I have been going on to the healing heart forum which has helped me immensely and continues to do so. Whilst on there this afternoon I stumbled upon a really good link. http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/theothermanotherwoman/p/othermanwoman.htm .
I gave it a read and I have to say that it gave a logical perspective on the OW / OM. I recommend reading it because in the heat of the anger and pain which is never far away from the surface in an affair situation, it offers a clear and calm view to something that is quite toxic. It's literally offering a survival tactic to a trauma (which an affair is to those who are on the receiving end) in a logical manner.
Surviving infidelity is one long road!