Hi all. I had the misfortune to speak to ex-friend by mistake via my daughter's mobile phone. Ex-friend picked it up and as soon as I heard her voice I hung up! A chill ran right through my soul at the sound of it. A few moments later, I get a text saying if I had stayed on the line longer I would have been told that my daughter had left the phone and I should pick it up. Anyway to cut a long story short, ex-friend dropped off phone at the top of the drive and then sent me a text saying 'I really need to let go off all the anger and that I am not doing myself any favours.' Makes no difference to her, she said,' but it would help me.'
The arrogance of that comment is mind-blowing but it is also a tactic to get a response. On some level, I feel, she wants to engage. Whether that is to gloat I don't know but I am not and will not engage with her. I believe if I did my self-esteem not to mention my sanity would take a knocking.
Recently, I found this talk from TED and I have to say that it is brilliant. For me it made me think of the importance of looking after your mental health after such a trauma and showing compassion to yourself. It is truly insightful and uplifting.
...Why does the pain of an affair hurt so much? That question can only be truly answered by those who have experienced it, and as someone who has, I hope this blog can offer some insight to the agony that you are facing.