Hi all. I had the misfortune to speak to ex-friend by mistake via my daughter's mobile phone. Ex-friend picked it up and as soon as I heard her voice I hung up! A chill ran right through my soul at the sound of it. A few moments later, I get a text saying if I had stayed on the line longer I would have been told that my daughter had left the phone and I should pick it up. Anyway to cut a long story short, ex-friend dropped off phone at the top of the drive and then sent me a text saying 'I really need to let go off all the anger and that I am not doing myself any favours.' Makes no difference to her, she said,' but it would help me.'
The arrogance of that comment is mind-blowing but it is also a tactic to get a response. On some level, I feel, she wants to engage. Whether that is to gloat I don't know but I am not and will not engage with her. I believe if I did my self-esteem not to mention my sanity would take a knocking.
Recently, I found this talk from TED and I have to say that it is brilliant. For me it made me think of the importance of looking after your mental health after such a trauma and showing compassion to yourself. It is truly insightful and uplifting.