Looking back at the run up to finding out about the affair there was one thing that was completely off the menu and that was sex! Yes my
partner, for the whole year emotionally and intimately shut me off! Before you throw your hands up in the air and say 'Well you should have known by his actions that something was up!' Well my answer
to that is I did. However, I thought, that he was depressed due to the stresses of finances, moving home and day to day worries. This, I felt, had a knock on effect on his wanting sex. Unfortunately
for me, anything I did with regards to being intimate, just shut him off even more. Add to the fact that the statistics for sexless marriages are a lot higher than people think. Apparently, 15-20 per
cent of couples have sex no more than 10 times a year. So, I put myself in that bracket and wondered what I needed to do to salvage that. Believe me, I tried to the point of humiliating myself.
In the end I had to pull myself back, just for my own sense of dignity and just pray that the whole thing would ride itself out. Now knowing what I know, he was sleeping with my ex-friend quite
regularly. When I found out about that and confronted her with that information her reply was, "I should have been grateful that he wasn't leading me on by sleeping with me!"
How do you respond to not only the above mentioned but also a comment like that from someone you thought was your friend?!!! Answers on a postcard, please!!
...Why does the pain of an affair hurt so much? That question can only be truly answered by those who have experienced it, and as someone who has, I hope this blog can offer some insight to the agony that you are facing.