Well, I have had a couple of days of absolute grief! I have been venting some of my spleen on the brilliant healing heart forum Ex-friend who was also the OW was part of my child's birthday celebrations! and I was not! The reason being, my ex was his usual bullying self decided that our child should be with him not me (citing the court order, which he had interpreted wrongly!). To keep the peace and to cut a long story short my child went with him. It was truly a miserable day for me and I gather not so great for my child. However, to add oil to the fire ex-friend decided to send me a long text telling me how I should behave with regards to parenting and maintaining a relationship with my ex! Her text was a very polite up yours so to speak. This is coming from the person who had an affair, left her husband and children, broke up my family and moved in with my ex. Oh and by the way she is a still a church goer! and she is giving me words of 'wisdom' on how to live my life.
Am I missing something here or is this person so morally reprehensible that they cannot see it? Has any readers out there suffered anything similar? If so I would be interested to hear your story and how you have dealt / dealing with it. In the meantime, I have posted a thread on the healing heart entitled: 'A lecture by the OW on how to behave!' the responses have been supportive as always.
Leave me alone and do not contact me!
...Why does the pain of an affair hurt so much? That question can only be truly answered by those who have experienced it, and as someone who has, I hope this blog can offer some insight to the agony that you are facing.